在這個曖昧氾濫的年代
男女之間被動地出現了第三種情感
曖昧不是愛情，但卻可以是愛情的萌芽
當兩個單身的異性由於長時間相處
而對彼此產生一份曖昧的情愫
旁人自然是無可非議
可是如果你或者對方身邊早已有了另一半
卻依然繼續著這所謂的第三種情感
那就另當別論了
男女之間的純友誼固然存在
但是任何事情之間都是有一個度
如果你自己把握不好這個度
還是勸你輕易不要趕這個“潮流”了…
今天下午，一個朋友和她老公分手了。
最後一句，電話那邊的聲音很清楚。
“滾開，別拿曖昧當藉口。”
其實，本應該上去安慰的。
但是，她背著自己的老公和別人煲電話粥，說情話，傳短信，
我們都知道.
照她自己的話講，
“我什麼都沒做，我很乾淨”。
是嗎？是吧。大概是吧...
但是，我很好奇普天之下又有幾人能大度的讓自己的愛人背著自己和別人玩“純潔”呢？
或是假借"知己""良朋"之名,暗渡"曖昧"之陳艙.
所以，我倒是覺得她老公那句話很經典。
甚至覺得她老公很智慧，處理感情危機很果斷。
人和人之間當然有純潔的友誼
但是，我們如何能奢望那萬分之一的幸運掉在兩個甚至更多情侶之間？
別忘了，她可是跟很多人都純潔的保持著友誼長在的關係.
曖昧是什麼？
曖昧是，比好朋友再親一點，但比情人遠一點。
曖昧是, 我喜歡你,但與愛情無關。
曖昧是，你會不時去她的BLOG看看有沒有更新；而且你會留意字裡行間，她對你有沒有什麼暗示。
曖昧是，有感覺，然而，這種感覺卻不足以讓你們同時決定發展一段正式的關係。
曖昧是，一邊享受出軌的刺激.感激偷情的滿足;另一邊感嘆人生有太多的無奈，抱怨現實有太多的限制,你知道沒有可能，但又捨不得放手。
曖昧是，有進一步的衝動，卻沒有進一步的必要。
曖昧是，為了逃避背叛而衍生出的罪惡感。
曖昧是，別人以為你們在搞地下情時，你還偶爾沾沾自喜,洋洋得意。
曖昧是，別人問你和她是否有可能，你理直氣壯的說"我心裡只有我老公。"
曖昧是，除了情人節，其它的節日，大家都交換禮物。
曖昧是, 沒有證據的出軌
曖昧是，你很想多走一步，但又怕跌了自己純潔的形象。你會很刻意的不小心向對方流露自己的感情。
當一個人自以為是的認為在遵守愛情的規則，同時和另一個(或另一些人)玩著以上游戲，
那麼...對，這就是曖昧。
總是有一種人,
喜歡為自己找各種藉口來掩飾自己的貪心.
曖昧在愛情裡，其實就是貪心.
總是有一種人,
常常一邊對朋友哭訴愛人是如何如何對不起自己,愛人是如何如何糾纏清...
自己又如何容忍，如何委屈.
另一邊卻和一個或幾個人保持曖昧,親密的'朋友'關係,
她可以叫那些人為寶貝，或是老公;
她也可以常常把愛你掛在嘴邊,說給那一個或那幾個'朋友' 聽.
她還可以花比跟她老公在一起還多的時間，周旋於各個' 朋友'之間，並且樂此不疲...
她總是在老公冷落她的時候覺得寂寞，因為寂寞她需要找很多'朋友'來填補愛情裡的空虛。
如同我上面那位女朋友，
她總是哭訴著,是她老公對她不忠在先,是她老公偷人在先,是她老公冷落她在先。
我想問她,那又如何?
是不是當出軌的行跡包裹上了曖昧的外衣
就能洗脫全部的證據?
就因為她的老公背叛在先了，所以她的曖昧就不算曖昧了?
就因為她的老公偷人再先,所以她跟別人眉來眼去也不算過分了?
就因為她的老公冷落她在先,所以她肆無忌憚的處處留情也變成了情里之中的事?
就因為她老公犯錯在先,所以她即使和別人曖昧了,也不算錯了?
狗屁!!!
寂寞不是曖昧的藉口，
不管她老公是否對不起她在先,都不能成為抹殺她和別人搞曖昧的事實.
實際上她就是當了婊子還要立貞潔牌坊來自欺欺人.
說著那樣的謊言,裝著那樣的純情,假借退讓的名義,為她自己的愛情高歌，
卻忘了她的曖昧也是傷人的，上天是公平的，
要知道
每個人的幸福總是有限的，
偷來的幸福總有一天要還
更多日誌推薦：
每一個不懂愛的人都會遇到一個懂愛的人，然後經歷一場撕心裂肺的愛情。不懂愛的人慢慢懂了。懂愛的人，卻不敢再愛了~
你付出的再多，換來的也只能是一句對不起（不是TA不領情，而是TA根本不愛你。你不是TA想要的那個人，就算你再完美也沒有用！）
不在身邊，不等於不愛你……
最疼痛的愛情，並不是你愛的人不愛你，也不是你不愛的人愛你，而是你愛的人，不夠愛你……
有種朋友，很喜歡，卻不忍動情……
有一種女孩，注定被剩下……
太心疼你，才選擇不放棄也不勉強……
友情愛情之間，並不是只有曖昧。如果你身邊也有那麼一個能夠給你溫暖的人，就請你好好珍惜……
其實大學，我們可以不需要愛情的……
不管你有沒有男朋友，有沒有女朋友，都過來把它讀完，寫的真是那麼回事
一生只談一次戀愛是最好的，經歷的太多了，會麻木；分離多了，會習慣；換戀人多了，會比較；到最後，你不會再相信愛情；你會自暴自棄；你會行屍走肉；你會與你不愛的人結婚，就這樣過一輩子。
Wednesday, 7 July 2010
不是不想戀愛，而是，不想隨便的戀愛……
單身並沒有什麼不好，你一樣可以關心你喜歡的人，這樣可以讓大眾覺得你是一個很好的朋友；而戀愛中的人，關心別人則會引發醋意，從愛情觀說也是對愛情不夠忠誠，但不關心別人則又失去很多友誼，一旦你分手了，就賠了夫人又折兵。所以現在單身，不是說你不嚮往愛情，而是證明你對未來的TA的一份癡情。
愛情晚點來，就不會走得太早。
我不需要靠失戀來成熟，我應該利用別人失戀的經驗成長起來。
一個優秀的人單身說明這人足夠優秀，一個再優秀的人隨意戀愛說明這人的優秀只是表面而已，真正希望對方好的，就是默默在背後關心對方。最好的承諾，不是愛你一萬年，而是根本不需要承諾。
學生時代，周圍接觸最多的人都年齡相仿，所以價值觀都差不多，都想著將來有個好工作，有個好戀人。正因為理想差不多，所以2個人在一起會很開心，也就很容易走到了一起。至於戀愛是否會影響學習，這裡就不說了，因為既有促進作用，也有消極作用，因人而異。
戀人不是靠尋找的，因為在沒有完全了解對方之前，對方可以為了吸引你暫時改變自己，而一旦你完全了解對方後，分手就指日可待了。所以戀愛應該是日久生情，彼此非常熟知後自然地走在一起，甚至無需表白。不要認為對方人很好就輕易妥協，人好不是愛情的全部，你們必須為愛情的將來做打算。
如果遇到一個你深愛的女孩，而你感覺她也喜歡你，大部分的人都是直接就開始交往了。這樣做的後果就是前面所說的，最後失去一個深愛的人。你應該以朋友的名義關心她，在畢業後仍保持聯繫，然後為了她努力工作。當你在事業上有所成就後再去找她，如果此時她仍在等你，說明你沒看錯人。
女孩，如果一個男生他很快就喜歡上妳，那麼他以後也會很快就喜歡上別人的。
在學校裡的愛情是無知的，在社會中的愛情可能是有目的的，只有遇到逆境仍走下去的愛情才是永恆的。
愛情不是和一個最適合自己的人在一起，而是遇到一個更適合自己的人時，能夠堅守自己對所愛的人作出的承諾。
愛情不是兩個人眼睛對視，而是兩個人的眼光對著同一個方向投視。
網上的“愛你，為你做這些事”看起來很感人，因為大部分人都不是這種愛情。愛情不是一種潮流，你要有自己的看法，在你的理想戀人未出現時，你要有毅力選擇一直單身，而不是找個替代品。當你做到後，網上傳的那些事，在你的愛情中是再基本不過的了。
男生，在談戀愛時不要抱著不適合就分手的想法，一定要慎重地考慮清楚，女朋友就是你未來的老婆，結婚只不過是多一張無用的紙而已，結婚並不是為愛情加了鎖，真正的愛情從來就不需要任何的束縛。一旦你選擇了戀愛，就要有一種責任感，你要為你父母的兒子、你老婆的丈夫、你未來孩子的爸爸負責！
雖然分手是另一段愛情的重新開始，但初戀只有一次，一個人在初戀中對愛情的嚮往是最多的，而一旦戀愛失敗，以後的每一次戀愛中，最難忘的還是初戀。
所以，不是不想戀愛，而是，不想隨便的戀愛！
愛情晚點來，就不會走得太早。
我不需要靠失戀來成熟，我應該利用別人失戀的經驗成長起來。
一個優秀的人單身說明這人足夠優秀，一個再優秀的人隨意戀愛說明這人的優秀只是表面而已，真正希望對方好的，就是默默在背後關心對方。最好的承諾，不是愛你一萬年，而是根本不需要承諾。
學生時代，周圍接觸最多的人都年齡相仿，所以價值觀都差不多，都想著將來有個好工作，有個好戀人。正因為理想差不多，所以2個人在一起會很開心，也就很容易走到了一起。至於戀愛是否會影響學習，這裡就不說了，因為既有促進作用，也有消極作用，因人而異。
戀人不是靠尋找的，因為在沒有完全了解對方之前，對方可以為了吸引你暫時改變自己，而一旦你完全了解對方後，分手就指日可待了。所以戀愛應該是日久生情，彼此非常熟知後自然地走在一起，甚至無需表白。不要認為對方人很好就輕易妥協，人好不是愛情的全部，你們必須為愛情的將來做打算。
如果遇到一個你深愛的女孩，而你感覺她也喜歡你，大部分的人都是直接就開始交往了。這樣做的後果就是前面所說的，最後失去一個深愛的人。你應該以朋友的名義關心她，在畢業後仍保持聯繫，然後為了她努力工作。當你在事業上有所成就後再去找她，如果此時她仍在等你，說明你沒看錯人。
女孩，如果一個男生他很快就喜歡上妳，那麼他以後也會很快就喜歡上別人的。
在學校裡的愛情是無知的，在社會中的愛情可能是有目的的，只有遇到逆境仍走下去的愛情才是永恆的。
愛情不是和一個最適合自己的人在一起，而是遇到一個更適合自己的人時，能夠堅守自己對所愛的人作出的承諾。
愛情不是兩個人眼睛對視，而是兩個人的眼光對著同一個方向投視。
網上的“愛你，為你做這些事”看起來很感人，因為大部分人都不是這種愛情。愛情不是一種潮流，你要有自己的看法，在你的理想戀人未出現時，你要有毅力選擇一直單身，而不是找個替代品。當你做到後，網上傳的那些事，在你的愛情中是再基本不過的了。
男生，在談戀愛時不要抱著不適合就分手的想法，一定要慎重地考慮清楚，女朋友就是你未來的老婆，結婚只不過是多一張無用的紙而已，結婚並不是為愛情加了鎖，真正的愛情從來就不需要任何的束縛。一旦你選擇了戀愛，就要有一種責任感，你要為你父母的兒子、你老婆的丈夫、你未來孩子的爸爸負責！
雖然分手是另一段愛情的重新開始，但初戀只有一次，一個人在初戀中對愛情的嚮往是最多的，而一旦戀愛失敗，以後的每一次戀愛中，最難忘的還是初戀。
所以，不是不想戀愛，而是，不想隨便的戀愛！
Saturday, 3 July 2010
I love summer...
It's summer time again.....Yo...ho.....I really love summer....This is not just because of the reason that my birthday is on the summer time.......but actually that is because I really love to go to the beach on the summer time.......I can still remember when I was little my dad used to take me and my brother to the beach on every weekend.....I really miss those days.......
Anyway.......Yeah....It's time to get some new and pretty Bikinis lol....hahaha........Ai..yo.....The other day I was shopping with my friend and I just saw a really nice, pretty and hot set of Bikini........Ai yo.....I was thinking should I get that Bikini or not.....since I have already got a few sets of Bikinis already..........so I ended up not getting them lol......after that I just found myself really like that Bikini, and then I have changed my mind, since I really wanna get them.........I think I should have bought them on the other day.........ai.....yo........I am so regretting now.........
I dare I must get them as soon as possible......if not then.....I need to pay more effort to find a better one then that..........hahahhahahah........Since I will never let myself holding this kind of regretful feelings in my life for any longer....no no no no.....I can't let myself feel regret lol......Hahahaha........I think I am pretty stubborn sometimes.....hahaha.......
Anyway.......Yeah....It's time to get some new and pretty Bikinis lol....hahaha........Ai..yo.....The other day I was shopping with my friend and I just saw a really nice, pretty and hot set of Bikini........Ai yo.....I was thinking should I get that Bikini or not.....since I have already got a few sets of Bikinis already..........so I ended up not getting them lol......after that I just found myself really like that Bikini, and then I have changed my mind, since I really wanna get them.........I think I should have bought them on the other day.........ai.....yo........I am so regretting now.........
I dare I must get them as soon as possible......if not then.....I need to pay more effort to find a better one then that..........hahahhahahah........Since I will never let myself holding this kind of regretful feelings in my life for any longer....no no no no.....I can't let myself feel regret lol......Hahahaha........I think I am pretty stubborn sometimes.....hahaha.......
Friday, 2 July 2010
I Miss U Missing Me
周笔畅（笔笔）2010全新专辑《i·鱼·光·镜》
I Miss U Missing Me
作词：Diane Warren
作曲：Diane Warren
someone told me you found somebody
found somebody new
I'm happy for you
maybe that's why I don't hear from you
like I used to like a faded photograph
our moment's in the past
but sometimes,sometimes
I miss you missing me
calling me on the phone
asking me how I'm doing
asking if I'm alone
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
guess you won't be asking 'bout me
when you see my friends
guess that had to end
I won't be hearing
what you've been up to
like I used to had our time
our time has passed
no there's no going back
but sometimes,sometimes
I miss you missing me
calling me on the phone
asking me how I'm doing
asking if I'm alone
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
when someone calls me up at night
I hold my breath I close my eyes
I wait and hope and pray it will be you
calling me on the phone
asking me how I'm doing
asking if I'm alone
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I Miss U Missing Me
作词：Diane Warren
作曲：Diane Warren
someone told me you found somebody
found somebody new
I'm happy for you
maybe that's why I don't hear from you
like I used to like a faded photograph
our moment's in the past
but sometimes,sometimes
I miss you missing me
calling me on the phone
asking me how I'm doing
asking if I'm alone
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
guess you won't be asking 'bout me
when you see my friends
guess that had to end
I won't be hearing
what you've been up to
like I used to had our time
our time has passed
no there's no going back
but sometimes,sometimes
I miss you missing me
calling me on the phone
asking me how I'm doing
asking if I'm alone
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
when someone calls me up at night
I hold my breath I close my eyes
I wait and hope and pray it will be you
calling me on the phone
asking me how I'm doing
asking if I'm alone
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
I miss you missing me
Work hard
I have already known the fact that I need to work hard for my future. However, this fact has been going more and more important for me.
Firstly, I am now an adult. I have started to realize more and more about getting into the society. More importantly, I am now being as a student and still need to work hard for my family's business. There are more and more pressure coming up and needed to be faced.
On the other hand, there are so many things that I really wanna going to complete or try in my life.
Goals are going to motive me moving better in my life.
Take every minute count in my life is always the best I can to.
Firstly, I am now an adult. I have started to realize more and more about getting into the society. More importantly, I am now being as a student and still need to work hard for my family's business. There are more and more pressure coming up and needed to be faced.
On the other hand, there are so many things that I really wanna going to complete or try in my life.
Goals are going to motive me moving better in my life.
Take every minute count in my life is always the best I can to.
Thursday, 1 July 2010
Seems hard but easy.....seems nothing but alot......Busy can be the reason but this will not be in every season.....
Simple words are being told and that's really mean alot for me. I guess this is the same as you. Communications are often the most important thing between people.
Before the day, I though we are no longer connected. Since we haven't talked for awhile, and we are both busying at work and everything.
Currently this is the period of the end of a financial year, everything has to be done and sorted out. Also my parents have just completed some of the documents for the settlement and still there are alot to deal with.
On the other hand, I have started to take the responsibility of handling the business of my parents. For the legal reason, a limited company can only be owned by at least two or more owners, therefore my dad can only transfer his part of his ownership of the business and properties into both my mum and mine name.
From the point of view of my grandparents, leaving Hong Kong and going to study aboard is no longer a choice for me at the moment. Since they want me to help my mum in her business and settling the payments for my dad.
Sometimes i ask myself the same question about in relations to the situation. I really wanna know how much longer can I sustain in this relationship. Everything seems to stop us going further, however I just can't really give myself an answer to the question. Perhaps the answer is not hard to find and maybe its easy enough for me to answer myself as well.
If I were in the past, I think I would have probably given up already. However, I think my mind is no longer the same as the past, since i couldn't find any intention to give up because of all the situations.
Even we are always being busy, but still we are happy to know that we are always there for each other. One or two words or even a sentence from msn or on the phone could have already lighted up each other's day.
Perhaps we are both an independent and ambitious person, we are ambitious for our goals from work and success from lives. Therefore we are more than willing to stay alone and staying apart and focus on each others lives, but taking into account that we are always viewing and trying to reach the same future. There are somethings deep in my mind that I have realized since before, and I really got to understand how important it is to me.
I know I will be over thinking sometimes, and will worry too much about somethings that doesn't really matter for this situation. Therefore I know that I really have to learn about not to think too much and just let it flow. I know this is a bit strange in what I want to say but I do think these are really true for me at the moment, "Everything can seem to be hard but actually is easy for me, and somethings can seem to be nothing but alot for us.
Before the day, I though we are no longer connected. Since we haven't talked for awhile, and we are both busying at work and everything.
Currently this is the period of the end of a financial year, everything has to be done and sorted out. Also my parents have just completed some of the documents for the settlement and still there are alot to deal with.
On the other hand, I have started to take the responsibility of handling the business of my parents. For the legal reason, a limited company can only be owned by at least two or more owners, therefore my dad can only transfer his part of his ownership of the business and properties into both my mum and mine name.
From the point of view of my grandparents, leaving Hong Kong and going to study aboard is no longer a choice for me at the moment. Since they want me to help my mum in her business and settling the payments for my dad.
Sometimes i ask myself the same question about in relations to the situation. I really wanna know how much longer can I sustain in this relationship. Everything seems to stop us going further, however I just can't really give myself an answer to the question. Perhaps the answer is not hard to find and maybe its easy enough for me to answer myself as well.
If I were in the past, I think I would have probably given up already. However, I think my mind is no longer the same as the past, since i couldn't find any intention to give up because of all the situations.
Even we are always being busy, but still we are happy to know that we are always there for each other. One or two words or even a sentence from msn or on the phone could have already lighted up each other's day.
Perhaps we are both an independent and ambitious person, we are ambitious for our goals from work and success from lives. Therefore we are more than willing to stay alone and staying apart and focus on each others lives, but taking into account that we are always viewing and trying to reach the same future. There are somethings deep in my mind that I have realized since before, and I really got to understand how important it is to me.
I know I will be over thinking sometimes, and will worry too much about somethings that doesn't really matter for this situation. Therefore I know that I really have to learn about not to think too much and just let it flow. I know this is a bit strange in what I want to say but I do think these are really true for me at the moment, "Everything can seem to be hard but actually is easy for me, and somethings can seem to be nothing but alot for us.
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